Comments on: Facebook Privacy Settings = Negative Friending Consequences http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 13:49:21 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Michael Roach http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24936 Michael Roach Fri, 14 Dec 2007 13:39:52 +0000 http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24936 Thinking about this a little further, I don't think that Pokes, Messages and Friend Requests should share the same privacy settings. I changed the settings for these many months ago. I would receive pokes and messages from people I didn't recognize... and when I messaged them to ask if I knew them, I didn't necessarily want them to see everything in my profile -- including friends. So I kept the settings to a bare minimum. When Facebook added the feature a few weeks back to allow us to see mutual friends on friend requests, I thought it was great. Based on the mutual friends, I could now see when a blank friend request was coming from someone who was simply networking on Facebook, and not someone I met at a specific event. By then, I had completely forgotten about my changed privacy settings. Besides, I wouldn't have made the connection if it hadn't been for Stalinslav's reply on the other post. That made me look into it. It'd be nice -- but probably complicated -- if Facebook would distinguish between the privacy settings these 3 features (pokes, messages and friend requests). I don't want to hide anything from friend requests, but I don't necessarily want to open everything up when sending messages to people not in my list of friends. Thinking about this a little further, I don’t think that Pokes, Messages and Friend Requests should share the same privacy settings.

I changed the settings for these many months ago. I would receive pokes and messages from people I didn’t recognize… and when I messaged them to ask if I knew them, I didn’t necessarily want them to see everything in my profile — including friends. So I kept the settings to a bare minimum.

When Facebook added the feature a few weeks back to allow us to see mutual friends on friend requests, I thought it was great. Based on the mutual friends, I could now see when a blank friend request was coming from someone who was simply networking on Facebook, and not someone I met at a specific event.

By then, I had completely forgotten about my changed privacy settings. Besides, I wouldn’t have made the connection if it hadn’t been for Stalinslav’s reply on the other post. That made me look into it.

It’d be nice — but probably complicated — if Facebook would distinguish between the privacy settings these 3 features (pokes, messages and friend requests). I don’t want to hide anything from friend requests, but I don’t necessarily want to open everything up when sending messages to people not in my list of friends.

]]> By: Teresa Valdez Klein http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24848 Teresa Valdez Klein Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:20:10 +0000 http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24848 I'm really glad that this came to such a positive -- and informative -- ending. I suspected that privacy settings were the culprit behind all of this. Rodney, you're a decent guy for doing the legwork on this issue. And Michael is right, Facebook should change its friend request notification layout so that information is consistently displayed. I’m really glad that this came to such a positive — and informative — ending. I suspected that privacy settings were the culprit behind all of this.

Rodney, you’re a decent guy for doing the legwork on this issue.

And Michael is right, Facebook should change its friend request notification layout so that information is consistently displayed.

]]> By: Michael Roach http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24810 Michael Roach Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:05:41 +0000 http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24810 Rodney, thanks for calling me to sort this all out. I think that says a lot about your character. You're honest enough -- and man enough -- to ask for more information and set the record straight. And you were very quick to put up this post right after our conversation! I thought I would see something tonight or tomorrow only. I wish I had known about those settings a while ago! I changed them today, but now I realize that every other friend request I've sent out, in which I said that we had friends in common, looked like a lie. D'oh! Facebook should really consider allowing friend requests to mention that you do indeed have friends in common, but not necessarily which ones if someone chooses to limit privacy settings. In any case, I appreciate this new post very much, and I look forward to get to know you better. Thanks, Michael Rodney, thanks for calling me to sort this all out. I think that says a lot about your character. You’re honest enough — and man enough — to ask for more information and set the record straight.

And you were very quick to put up this post right after our conversation! I thought I would see something tonight or tomorrow only.

I wish I had known about those settings a while ago! I changed them today, but now I realize that every other friend request I’ve sent out, in which I said that we had friends in common, looked like a lie. D’oh!

Facebook should really consider allowing friend requests to mention that you do indeed have friends in common, but not necessarily which ones if someone chooses to limit privacy settings.

In any case, I appreciate this new post very much, and I look forward to get to know you better.

Thanks,
Michael

]]> By: Mari Smith http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24808 Mari Smith Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:04:12 +0000 http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24808 Wowee - I'm tingling all over. I'm always the eternal optimist. I just knew something positive would come out of all this. I wasn't fully aware of the implications of that particular privacy setting. See - now you've both enlightened us all!! I'm delighted to hear yet another quality connection has now been made via Facebook. Gotta love it. :) Wowee - I’m tingling all over. I’m always the eternal optimist. I just knew something positive would come out of all this.

I wasn’t fully aware of the implications of that particular privacy setting. See - now you’ve both enlightened us all!!

I’m delighted to hear yet another quality connection has now been made via Facebook. Gotta love it. :)

]]> By: Joe http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24807 Joe Fri, 14 Dec 2007 00:03:50 +0000 http://facereviews.com/2007/12/13/facebook-privacy-settings-negative-friending-consequences/#comment-24807 The real point was that the guy was spamming you. The reason why he disabled the show common friends was because when he was starting out he probably didn't want people to see they have no friends in common. This guy is nothing but a spammer, and I would not trust him. The real point was that the guy was spamming you. The reason why he disabled the show common friends was because when he was starting out he probably didn’t want people to see they have no friends in common. This guy is nothing but a spammer, and I would not trust him.

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